Top 15 Ways a Wife Can Strengthen Her Marriage

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, 

but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones. 

Proverbs 12:4

Learning from the Wives of the Bible Series

I've decided to write a series called, Wives of the Bible; What to Do and What Not to Do Based on the Lives of these Women, as I blog every day for the next 13 days of my 1/2 marathon of blogging.   

I hope you'll join me each day as I discuss these wives because many of them are a crack up!  Some of them are so Godly and I try to emulate my life after them and others, well, let's just say I've never seen such poor decision-making in all my life!

We'll glimpse into the lives of the many infamous and not so famous wives of the Bible.  Ranging from Eve, to Sarah, to Esther, all the way to the obscure, Pontius Pilate's wife. 

How to Obtain Financial Security...and a Marital Oneness Monday Link Up!

I stood in the kitchen that afternoon preparing dinner as usual when my man and I were discussing our current financial dilemma...  Our problem of the day?  We couldn't afford to pay our rent.  It wasn't as if we were out spending money left and right because that certainly wasn't the case.  The problem was his income wasn't enough.  Actually, that's putting it nicely.  He was more like unemployed rather than self-employed.

Then he asked me something that I'll never forget.

"Don't you ever long for stability?"

Well, I laughed at his question and then I responded directly to him.

"No offense, but I gave up on looking to you for financial stability a long time ago.  It's the Lord I seek the financial stability from and I already have it.  In fact, our life couldn't get any more stable because it's built on a Rock!"  (Of course through the world's eyes if one were to look at our dire financial situation they'd think we were a bunch of religious fanatics.  Well, they'd be almost right, however, I prefer the term, "Jesus Freaks"!)

Now I didn't say those words to my man with the intention of insulting or offending him, my reasoning was quite the contrary.  I shared my direct viewpoint with him because one, he's a man and he speaks and hears 'direct language'.  And two, as his sister in the Lord, I wanted to encourage him, challenge him, and remind him to have a biblical viewpoint regarding our financial stability.  After all, as God's little sheep, we sometimes forget that our Shepherd is always with us.  Plus, as his wife, I wanted my Beloved to know that I did not want to add anymore pressure to the weight that he was already carrying on his shoulders.  I still valued him, respected him, and loved him just as much that day as the day I married him.   I didn't want our financial turmoil to define our commitment and love towards one another because I knew if I did, it would destroy our marriage.

If you've missed my earlier posts in this series, you can read Got Financial Concerns in Your Life? and Are You Living in Financial Uncertainty? to see what I've lived through as well as what the Lord has shown me regarding this very important topic.

Got Financial Concerns in Your Life?...and a Marital Oneness Monday Link Up!

Lately I've been receiving more and more emails from wives sharing about their money problems and the strains it has placed on their marriages.  Now of course I can totally understand this concern being that my Beloved and I have lived through an IRS audit, was dragged through a lawsuit, had our home foreclosed upon, couldn't afford to pay rent for the rental home we were living in, and then we had to live with friends.  But other than those few minor hiccups in our marriage, I totally get the strains these problems can place upon your marital union.  Yes, I said minor hiccups with complete sarcasm!

When the Seeds of Bitterness Sprout Up in Your Marriage

I recently had a reader contact me asking if I could address the bitterness that's growing in her heart towards her husband and what can she do about it.  Well, I don't believe she's alone in these feelings because I think it's pretty common among wives.  In fact, I believe there are so many wives who experience this towards their man that I even mentioned it in my post, 20 Reasons Why a Wife Doesn't Want to Have Sex!

So I figured I'd share some thoughts and ways to combat it for all who stop by here.  By the way, I just love all your questions!  It helps me to know what you'd like me to write on.  So feel free to contact me via email, FB, leave a comment, or write a question in the Forum of Friends and I'll do my best to answer them.

So, you've tried to forgive him and you thought you did, but deep down inside the seeds of bitterness are starting to grow and your love for him is starting to diminish by the second.