Recently, I've had some single women contact me
asking if I could write a few posts just for them. Being that most of my
readers are married women, I figured that if you're a mama, you could tuck some
of these thoughts away and share them with your daughters when the time is
right. And if you're a boy mama like me, you can share some of these
same principles and tweak them for your godly man in training, as well.
Because many of my marriage posts often deal with
problems in wedded bliss, I wanted to give these single sisters a
head-start so they can lay the proper foundation for their future
marriage. God designed marriage to be good. He designed it to be a
reflection of the love in which Christ has for the Church but unfortunately
many Christian marriages do not reflect that kind of love and it truly breaks
my heart.
So what do you think? Shall we encourage
these women to have a beautiful start to what could be a glorious
marriage? Let's be Titus 2 women together, so feel free to chime in at
the comment section if you have more counsel to give. (And pass this post on to
others that might benefit from it.)
4 Things You Need to Do Before You Meet Prince Charming
1. Fall more and more in love with the King of Kings every single day.
Pray for the desire to know Christ more
rather than knowing and longing for any other human being. No matter how
handsome, kind, successful, or godly Prince Charming may seem to be, he will
never measure up to the King. Your heart's desire should be to feel loved
by Jesus Christ first and foremost before you look to fall in love with some
man. My encouragement to you would be to spend some time seeking and
soaking in the scriptures so you'll be smitten for Him. I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he
will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit. Then Christ will make
his home in your hearts as you trust in him. Your roots will grow down into
God's love and keep you strong. Ephesians 3:16,17
2. Continue to accept yourself and who God has made you to be.
Don't let the world, or your family,
friends, co-workers, past boyfriends, current boyfriends, failures, mistakes,
etc. define who you are. Rest
in who Christ made you to be. And may
you have the power to understand, as all God's people should, how wide, how
long, how high, and how deep his love is. May you experience the love of
Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made
complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God. Ephesians
3:18,19
3. Be content during this season of your life.
I realize that as you get older you may
feel like life is passing you by because you're not married yet. Let me
tell you something about your plans, sweet sister,.....they can never compare
to God's great plans for your life! Remember who He is friend? He
is the Creator of everything in heaven and on earth. Submit to His plans
for your life and rest assured you will not be disappointed! "Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than
all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within
us." Ephesians 3:20
4. Don't wait for your life to begin. Live it now!
Serve Jesus Christ now. He has
gifted you with wonderful talents and skills as well as spiritual gifts.
Don't squander this time waiting for your Prince Charming to show up, but
rather be intentional about serving the King of Kings. Here's why:
When you set your heart on pleasing the King, a spiritual transformation in you
will start to take place. As a result, you will become a godlier Princess.
When that happens, the man that Christ has been preparing for you, a.k.a, your
Prince Charming, he'll end up being more godlier then you could've
ever imagined because your standard of godliness has been raised!
So how does this happen, you might
ask? Because you've sat at Jesus' feet learning from Him. You've
heard His voice. Your spirit is more sensitive. You've gained more
discernment and you've grown in wisdom. All these things have drawn you
closer to the Lord and all these things will cause you to not want to settle
for second-best! So, while in your singleness, serve the King and live
your life, and in doing so, you are being prepared for your future
marriage! Isn't that neat how that works out! Don't waste your life
by pining away waiting for some man to sweep you off your feet, instead, let
Jesus sweep you off your feet today and everyday!
Let's take a lesson from Jesus about this,
shall we? Here's the story in a nutshell: When Jesus was younger
His family traveled to Jerusalem
for the Passover feast and after it ended the family headed back home.
However, Jesus did not go with them, instead He was teaching in the
temple. His family soon realized that He was not with the others that
were on the road so they went back to Jerusalem to find Him, and this was the
conversation that took place:
Now so it was that after three days they (Mary and Joseph) found Him in the temple, sitting in the midst of the teachers, both listening to them and asking them questions. And all who heard Him were astonished at His understanding and answers. So when they saw Him, they were amazed; and His mother said to Him, "Son, why have You done this to us? Look, Your father and I have sought You anxiously." And He said to them, "Why did you seek Me? Did you not know that I must be about My Father's business?" Luke 2:46-48
Jesus was intent on pleasing his Father in
Heaven. So dear sister, emulate Jesus during your time of singleness and
be about your Father's business too!
Any thoughts on what you'd like to hear next in this series? I'd love for you to share them with me! Leave me a comment below or send me an email (just click the heart in the upper right-hand corner with the little envelop on it.)
Next in the Smitten for Him Single Series,
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If you have any problems with your own character or behavior, then weed them out before marriage. Don't think that marriage will make your problems go away or become easier to deal with. It's like not laying a proper foundation for your house. You will just have to go back and redo it later, and then it will be harder because of having more responsibilities, not easier. Also, water seeks its own level - we're likely to pick someone who has problems if we have our own. Make it for better - not for worse!
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DeleteOoh, that is EXCELLENT counsel, Tonya! Yep, that needs to be added to the list. Thanks for sharing this.
ReplyDeleteGood, good advice! The advice I would give single women is to not allow media, books, etc to create their expectations for marriage because it is always a letdown when you realize that real men and real marriages could never hope to live up to them. For example, many girls are dying for a Twilight-esque relationship and a guy like Edward Cullen and they don't realize that the kind of relationship modeled there is unhealthy. And even Christian romance novels create this image of a swarthy, perfect always serving, godly man who will fearlessly lead his family into spiritual maturity. Look to Scripture for your model ALWAYS!!
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Excellent advice Elizabeth! Sometimes women get so caught up in romantic fantasies portrayed by Hollywood that they are soon disillusioned once they are married. The Truth lived out is always the best role model. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
DeleteOh, Jolene, how I wish I had had this advice when I was a teen! My girls are 12, 10, and 6, so I'm definitely tucking this away for future reference. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteI hear you Meghan! But Christ makes all things new and He can always do a work in our lives if we surrender to Him!
DeleteDon't settle....period. Seek the Lord and don't stop until you KNOW that this man is THE one God has for YOU! Stoppin by from FFF :) www.simplyhelpinghim.com
ReplyDeleteLove this. Thank you. I will be sharing this with the women that I mentor and work with. Thank you. This is delightful and such a great reminder.
ReplyDeleteGreat advice!
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