Becoming One with Your Man & a Marital Oneness Monday Link Up

As a former woman at the well, with sin in this skin...

I've never known a love like this.

A blood-spilled love.

A love that covers a multitude of sins.

A Perfect Love that cast out fears.

When HE became my Bridegroom, HE took up residence in my heart and it is there that I gave HIM access to my vault; those dark, forbidden places where you let no one in, but now my spirit welcomes HIM knowing that the unconditional love and healing will begin.  And I will walk with HIM, hand in hand, from now until all eternity.

No, I've never known a love like this.  A trusting love.  A transparent love.  A vulnerable love.  A love that is intertwined with my soul.

And yet, HE calls me to connect and intertwine my soul to another; to become one with the one I exchanged my vows with and gave my life and body to--

To become one with him, my earthly groom.

But what does that look like?  How does that happen? How do two people become one flesh?  Came the thoughts of a young bride.

It's through a wild and relentless pursuit...

Of knowing HIM and him.

Of following HIM and him.

Of studying HIM and him.

Of respecting HIM and him.

And submitting to HIM and him.

Learning to fall in love with both of them over and over again, day in and day out, in spite of living through the torrential financial storms, walking through this life with a broken body, dealing with the attacks against our family and having my faith weakened.

It is there in the downright difficult life, where I clench my fists tightly to HIS robe and I take HIM at HIS Word knowing that all things work together for our good.  And when life interrupts and the enemy seeks to rip apart that which God has brought together, I do my part to protect our oneness at all costs.

And both my hands now hold each one of theirs.

And both of them have my heart.  "Please be careful with it, I whisper to them.  It's been through a lot.  It's been broken and it's fragile."

And when I look HIM in HIS eyes, I see HIS love for me.

A love so deep.

A love full of forgiveness.

A love covered in grace.

A love undeserved.

And it is because of HIS poured out love for me that I do my best to have a deep love for him.

Learning to love him with a love full of forgiveness and covered in grace enables us to have...

A trusting love.

A vulnerable love.

A transparent love.

A love where two souls become one.

"For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one."  Ephesians 5:31,32

It's a love where one flesh is intertwined with the Spirit.

Tips to Making More Oneness with Your Man

1. Here's a simple one--  take his last name.  This show's HIM and him your honor and respect.  (It's the leaving and cleaving principle that we need to be reminded of in today's culture.)


2. Trust him.


3. Let him lead you as you let HIM lead your man.


4. Let go of all bitterness.


5. Learn to resolve conflict in a godly way.


6. Be vulnerable.


7. Apply the 15 Things You Can Do to Strengthen Your Marriage.


8. Take HIM at HIS Word.

Now it's your turn.  What are some of your tips?



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